Sunday, February 3, 2019

A Different Goodbye-- for my niece, Cayden

My 14 year old niece died on January 25, 2019.

I don't quite know how to process the loss of her. I have had dreams about her every night for the last week. Cayden was my favorite girl in the whole world. She was a beautiful, bright light in this world and it will be a dimmer place without her here. I know she is in eternity with Jesus with no more pain, no more cerebral palsy, no more seizures, no more wheelchair. And she finally gets to eat real food!! I am sure she is there with our Gideon, finally getting to meet her little cousin for the first time. I hope he is showing her around Heaven. I bet they are already best friends, running, talking, telling each other stories about their family, singing, dancing, and experiencing so much joy together. And I believe from the bottom of my heart, that they will both be there waiting for us when we arrive.
Cayden was always one of my heroes because of how strong she was. I will always be proud of her.

I was given the privilege to write Cayden's obituary, I hope this gives you a little more insight into what an amazing girl she was. I will love you forever, my favorite girl in the whole world. And now you are my favorite girl in eternity.

Cayden Raine Towery was born on June 7, 2004. Ever since the moment she was born, she has been a fighter. She was a fighter until her death on January 25, 2019. In fact, the name Cayden means “fighter.” In her life, Cayden was diagnosed with Spastic Quadriplegic Cerebral Palsy, cortical blindness, epilepsy, hip dysplasia, scoliosis, and more. Every day she fought as she went to doctor’s appointments, surgeries, and therapies. However, her diagnoses didn’t define her, but rather her joy and sassiness. Her smile would light up a room. Her laughter filled the air and enveloped the hearts of those who heard it. If you have heard her laugh, you could never forget it. It was pure glee!
 If you knew Cayden, you loved Cayden. She was the joy of her family’s life. Her sister, Payton, and brother, Brady, could often be seen doting over their Cayden. Her big sister always said that Cayden was the Pink Power Ranger. Her little brother would always check on her to make sure she was okay and happy. Cayden’s mom and dad loved her endlessly and their eyes would light up with joy when they cared for her. Each night her mom, dad, Payton, and Brady would sing to her The Night, Night Song her daddy wrote just for her. Cayden could often be seen wearing bright colors and crazy socks, both of which represented her spunky, sassy attitude. She loved her baby cousins and would get very still and quiet when the babies were near her. When her cousins were running around playing, she would stick her arm out to try to trip them to join in the mischief! She loved feeling the wind in her hair and was wild at heart.
She loved SpongeBob, Dora the Explorer, and the movie Sing. Her favorite music was Big Time Rush, and she even got to go see them in concert! She loved every minute of it! Even though she may have never walked or talked, her life was filled with love and adventure. She got to travel to Louisiana, Colorado, New Mexico, Hawaii, Mexico, and places all over Texas.
Words could never accurately describe this little girl who changed the lives of everyone around her. She taught people about how to love, about compassion, grace, and serving others. Because of her life, she taught people about the power of prayer and the love of the Lord. She was a beautiful, perfect creation of God. When you looked into her eyes, you could just see LOVE. We wish she was going to be here tomorrow, the next day, and for many years to come. We know she's whole now in the presence of Jesus with no more cerebral palsy, no more blindness, no more seizures, no more wheelchair. And for that, we rejoice. But every day, Cayden’s family and those who love her will miss her deeply. She was a beautiful bright light in this world, the epitome of everything that was pure and beautiful.
Cayden, we will hold you in our hearts always. We will live in a way that honors you, by giving love and joy to those around us. We will continue to fight, as you did your whole life. You know how much we all love you because we showed you every day and told you all the time. And your smiles and laughter in return was your way of telling us how much you loved us. 14 years was not enough time here on earth, but we are thankful that we will get to spend an eternity with you one day. Dance in heaven, sing, run, and play until we get there to be with you again.
Cayden was a gift to her family every day of her life, and now she is a gift to others by giving them a second chance at life through organ donation. Because of her, three other people will have a chance to live. A part of our Cady-Bug will go on to live in the lives of those three people.
Cayden is survived by her Mom and Dad, Castle and Shane Towery, her sister, Payton Towery, her brother, Brady Towery, her Nana and Granddaddy, Karen and Rod Zeller, her Pawpaw and Grandma, Dean and Kathleen Towery, her Nonnie, Linda Towery and Don Stone, her aunts and uncles, Ryan and Angie Zeller, Summer and Adam Moseley, Stormy and Todd Mitchell, and Kelsey Zeller, many cousins, and other beloved family members and friends. She is preceded in death by her cousin, Gideon Mitchell.
We love you, Cayden. Night, night, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs bite, bite, bite.

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”- Matthew 19:14